Saturday, 15 December 2012

Yikes

Why can' t things ever just be alright? Why does something always come along to arse things up?

My weekend job, which has been fine thus far, is the latest storm cloud on the horizon.One of the staff there,  so far we've got on like a house on fire, asked for my number. Sure, why not, we can meet up for a coffee in the week, he goes to UEL near me, ... but then he seems to be taking it all a bit seriously... asked what's the latest he can call me to sort out a time. I don't know why, when we are going to meet tomorrow at work.  When he calls I let it ring, so he texts "Hey u okay..."

I feel uncomfortable with this. He is married with a little girl. I don't fancy him and apart from getting on as colleagues, we don't really have anything in common. I phone my sister to ask what she reckons. "Ask to see pictures of his wife and little girl - say you're too busy in the week but would be delighted to come over after work to meet them all..."

In a way it's harder to knock someone back when they're not being direct. If someone asks if you want to sit on their willy, it's pretty easy to give a direct no and everyone knows where they stand. This 'friends' business makes it far more tricky. I like him and I don't want things to be awkward. We've got to see each other and work together every weekend.

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  1. Do you not have a male (gay?) friend who can pose as your boyfriend, giving you a big snog and grope in front of problem colleague?

    But the willy sitting line made me laugh.

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  2. I do, Tim! I didn't think of that, I might give it a try.

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  3. I sympathise, and with good reason. And even the direct ones don't necessarily take a good-humoured "no" for an answer.

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  4. What did you do, Z?

    Shit, he just rang again. If only I'd seen this before...

    http://www.wikihow.com/Reject-a-Guy-Who-Wants-Your-Number

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  5. Invited him to dinner with me and my husband, which rather equates with your sister's suggestion. Doesn't stop the texts, usually on business with over-friendly overtones, though.

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  6. Make up a new love interest and start talking about him a lot - see how he reacts. If he really does fancy his chances with you, he'll probably get a bit sulky when you start going on about another chap.

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  7. Hm. When I was emailing at work on Saturday he said 'I hope you're not messaging your boyfriend, I'll be jealous, hahaha...'

    Oh, arses, I'm rubbish at this. Wish I'd just said no in the first place.

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    1. Oh god, what a pity. Some blokes don't understand that being friendly doesn't mean anything more.

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  8. Z, this is where a husband would come in handy...

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  9. You should cocktease the living shit out of him, just for fun.

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  10. I usually get out of situations like this by just pretending it isn't happening. Though that is easier if you haven't given them your phone number.

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  11. LC, you are an amoral beast.

    Artog, that would be my exact tactic usually.

    One way to deal with this is to LOSE YOUR PHONE AT WORK. Yes. Freudian slip, do you reckon?

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  12. I wish I was around, I´d meet you after work and give you a big snog, that would really throw him off track! Or start fashioning fake cold sores so you can put him off with herpes! Tricky situation, hope he backs off....

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